For your partner, parents are in first place. If you respect and care for them naturally, you’ll enjoy being around them. Getting along with your in-laws is important, especially when they belong to a close-knit and culturally rich region like the Pahadi areas of India, such as Uttarakhand.
Pahadi families are warm, traditional, and often deeply connected to nature, culture, and community. If your in-laws come from the hills, here are 10 simple and friendly tips to bond with them beyond just saying “Namaste” and offering a cup of chai. Marrying in Garhwal, Kumaon, or Jaunsar means becoming part of a vibrant culture.
1. Speak the Local Language or use Some Phrases
Pahadi people really appreciate it when someone tries to speak their language. Even if you’re not perfect, learning a few simple words like “Namaskar,” “Kaise ho?” or “Dhanyawaad” can mean a lot. It shows that you respect their culture and are making an effort. You can even ask your in-laws to teach you, this can be a fun way to bond! Keep speaking with love and patience to create a calm and happy atmosphere at home.
2. Traditional Food with Genuine Interest
Pahadi cuisine is simple but rich in flavor and tradition. Dishes like Jhungar Kheer, Kafuli, Fanu, Chainsu, Bhatt ki Churkani, Aloo Ke Gutke, or Siddu are common in many hill regions. Instead of just eating them politely, show curiosity, ask how they are made, or better yet, offer to help in the kitchen. Cooking together is a great way to connect!
3. Respect and Take Part in Local Traditions
Whether it’s a local festival like Harela, Phool Dei, or a religious event, show interest and participate with enthusiasm. Even if you don’t understand everything, your willingness to take part will be appreciated. Wearing local attire during these occasions will also make your in-laws smile.
4. Don’t Just Stay Indoors, Explore the Outdoors with Them
Pahadi families usually have a strong bond with nature. Spending time together, like going on short walks, visiting nearby temples or farms, can help you build a good connection with your in-laws. These small moments can turn into beautiful memories. Just be yourself. If they see you’re kind and happy, they’ll naturally show you love in return.
5. Help with Daily Chores, Especially in Villages
In many hill homes, daily life includes things like farming, gardening, or collecting firewood. Even if you’re not used to this kind of work, offering to help, even just a little, can mean a lot. Pahadi people respect hard work and humble behavior. So try to be open and friendly, and join in with their daily life when you can.
6. Listen to Their Stories About the Hills
Elders in the hills often have wonderful stories—about wildlife, ancient temples, past generations, or village life. Take time to listen. Ask questions and show interest. These conversations not only help you bond but also give you insight into their way of life.
7. Show Respect for Nature and Simplicity
Pahadi culture teaches living in harmony with nature. Avoid wasting water or food, and try to follow their eco-friendly habits. They’ll appreciate your efforts to respect their lifestwyle.
8. Dress Modestly and Appropriately in Traditional Homes
In many hill households, especially with older members, modest dressing is preferred. Wearing salwar-kameez, kurta-pajama, or traditional woolens during cold weather shows respect for their values and makes you look like one of the family.
9. Use Technology Carefully Around Them
If your in-laws are not tech-savvy, avoid being glued to your phone or taking too many selfies. Spend more time interacting with them. You can, however, offer to teach them how to use smartphones or help them with online tasks if they’re open to it.
10. Be Patient, Kind, and Genuine
Finally, the best way to bond with anyone is to be yourself, respectful, kind, and warm-hearted. Understand that there might be cultural differences or communication gaps, but these can always be bridged with love and patience. Over time, your in-laws will accept and embrace you fully.
Sharing a bit about your own background, through food, clothes, language, or festivals can create mutual respect. It shows that you’re open and also proud of who you are, just as they are proud of their Pahadi roots.
Building a strong bond with Pahadi in-laws takes effort, but it’s absolutely worth it. Their way of life is grounded in nature, respect, and tradition. If you step into their world with curiosity, kindness, and an open heart, you’ll soon become more than just a son- or daughter-in-law, you’ll become family.
So yes, chai and namaste are a great start, but there’s a whole world of warmth, wisdom, and love waiting for you in the hills.
